Single In Nashville-->

I wanted to put together some thoughts on being a single in Nashville. Now, as many know who read my blog I’m newly single and I have my son living with me. My ex moved out of our house last week. I actually enjoy being alone in the house to some degree. Another thing is I’ve never really had a problem getting with the women I want but getting with the women I should be with has been a problem in the past. I’ve matched myself for pretty shitty reasons in the past. Okay, I’m addicted to pretty women but now that I know that and I’m much older than the last time I was single so I’ve been trying to weed out the ones who aren’t intellectually or emotionally developed enough for me. This means taking things slower than I would like. I really don’t have a lot of patience and never have had all that much. But I’ve went on a few successful dates and I found someone I’m pretty interested in so I learned a lot very quickly.

Okay, so the first thing I did was get my wardrobe straight. I went out and got all the clothes I wanted that would represent my tastes in style. It’s very lucky that it was close to winter because winter fashions have always given me more flexibility. A good fashion sense will get you a hell of a long way. The clothes don’t make the man but they do represent you and if you are comfortable in your clothes you will exude more confidence. A great cologne will get you pretty far too. The sense of smell is more connected directly to the brain than any other sense. Then you really have to own yourself. If you look unsure about yourself so is everyone else. Be your space and feel free to talk to other people. Looking good and smelling good in a venue that matches you well is only part of the fight. If you don’t talk to people or respond to people you don’t have anything. Closed mouths don’t get fed. Oh… and take a friend with you. You’ll need filler conversation and you look social and fun if you have someone with you. I have gone out by myself when I can’t get anybody but personally, I’m just a lot more comfortable with a friend or two with me.

Lastly, I have been trying different clubs/bars out to find ones that match my style. I’m a real big fan of Pearl on Commerce street near 2nd. It’s an urban lounge of sorts and that suits my tastes. The crowd isn’t extremely young, they have good food and there’s space for talking to someone if you meet someone there. This place gives me the attention I like and the people who own it are very responsive to remember their regulars. It makes you feel at home. There are a couple other places I like. I’m a fan of Big Bang on Broadway but it can be a little coupled up in there most of the time. A great place to take a date but a little harder to find one there. I do occassionally go to Atlantis on (3rd I think) but this is a bit too young and less classy in my opinion. I’m more for the grown, sexy and classy places in Nashville where I can meet laid back people. A guilty pleasure of mine in the past has been Decades (an 80’s club on Broadway) but I have mixed feelings about the crowd there. It’s been slightly different every time I’ve went and I haven’t hit it up since I’ve been single. The venue you frequent should match your tastes in women, represent your interests in music and dress and not be so packed where you can’t get noticed or breath… lol If it’s so hot you are sweating your ass off, leave, you are gonna be in a bad position. Ie… I really don’t like Karma Lounge in Nashville because it’s always 1 million degrees in that bitch and packed to the teeth on weekends. Are there any places you’d recommend? If so, leave me some comments.