The Thrill of The Chase-->

I love to chase women when I’m interested in one and believe they are unique. I slightly like it more when a woman seems to be a challenge. Notice I said ‘slightly’. Okay, this is a deeply nuanced discussion. I love a challenge. But, I also love attention. When I give a woman my attention and creativity and I get little attention in return I tend to do the opposite of what I did when I was younger. When I was younger the less attention a woman gave me the more I would chase her. Now, I don’t so much have the stomach for a such an endeavor. I am pretty sure back when I was younger I didn’t have nearly as much a sense of self worth and thought I had to fight to prove I was better than I appeared. These days I do have a pretty large sense of self worth so I feel like a woman has to meet me in the middle sometimes during the chase.

Let me further qualify my statements. I do love a challenge and a woman has to give me as much mental game as I give to even be in the same league with me. This means some push and pull, which is fun. But if I have to beg for your time, appriciation and equal contribution to the chase it’s not really worth my energy. I feel that I’m worth a lot. I have a ton of diverse skills & abilities and I adapt quickly.

I believe that many women love the attention that comes with the chase and that’s cool. There’s still that important underlying tradition in our culture of men leading the chase (which I enjoy and I believe many other men do). But almost all men have egos that need attention to be fed. Also, all people want to feel important. Even feeling important in one person’s life is truly valuable to most. So, ladies, if you are being chased by someone who feels you are worth it and you don’t give some chase back then expect that opportunity will be lost in due time. Though, I believe that many women feel more motivated to return attention when guys back off and stop giving them a ton of attention. I know many men who are like this as well. If something comes to easy then it’s not worth having or has no intrinsic value. This is contrary to my logic about how the world should work but observable, nonetheless. Something that comes easy to you may come easy to you because of who you are and what someone sees in you.