Will Bridges

Most of us learn at a very early age that square pegs do not fit in to round holes. Why then, Do many of us attempt to actually do this later in life? It may be because we have a deep desire to change the way things are and/or that we like a challenge. Though I believe strongly in change for myself and hope that others change regularly many people do not actually change. They are much like pegs. They find their form and shape when they go through their youth and feel they are done changing after that or that because they went to X school and paid X amount and get their piece of paper and they are then done with the majority of their learning. Some people are suited for certain things and not others because of their background experiences and lifestyle. To change would send their life in to turmoil and most people resist change anyway so they don't change or go outside of their box.

If it helps, I consider myself a peg as well. I just don't consider my form or shape set in stone. I'm good at a lot of things and not so good at some other things. I promote my good attributes and work quietly on my attributes that don't serve me so well. I don't deny my bad attributes and I listen to all, including my enemies. If all my enemies are saying something bad about me I want to look at that bad thing and see if their is any truth to it and if then I can change it to be something more positive. So, some pegs are stone (hard to change shape, solid, rigid), some are wood (hard, but can easily be chipped or cut to a new shape), some are clay (easily pliable but can become as hard as stone) and lastly some rare folks are not pegs at all but fluid (easily moving and changing without ever obstructing). I'm some where between wood and clay depending on the day and my mood. Most of the time I'm clay. But I always work to be somewhere between fluid and clay. Some folks are happy being stone but most would be happier if they learned another way.

I enjoy working with clay cause it's pliable and will hold shape when I need it to. However, I tend to try to change wood or stone to clay quite often and that is a difficult thing to do. I should really just go looking for clay but it's in my nature to change things, work towards perfection and help all those in the world who are rigid and stuck. Can you change your inate nature? Yes, of course, but the feeling of changing your nature is much like removing a band-aid. It's painful if the area is hairy, unless you remove it very quickly it's more painful and afterwards you will be glad it's no longer on. I've done this with ease before but this seems to be a struggle for me that I choose to keep doing. Notice, I am not a victim of this problem I have but I am mindfully choosing to change stone or wood to clay from time to time. Sometimes I do change stone to clay or at least to wood but most of the time I waste time, energy and spin my proverbial wheels in the sand. Is it worth the rare time that I do change things or people? I am pretty sure it is and that's why I haven't changed the fact I do this. Change is a wonderous thing and it's great to see people benefit from it. However, at this time in my life I want more folks I don't feel the need to mold or help in my life but are on the same level of development as I am and can handle most difficult situations with grace and ease.